“Catalyst of Unhealthy Guilt”
It is often said that forgiveness is a healing process, healing within itself is for those who seek it. Forgiveness can be the ultimate sacrifice one does to alleviate pains of sorrow. A sorrow so deep at times it can feel unbearable until one can release this pain.
Then there is another kind of forgiveness that we sometimes seek that can drive a wedge between those we love. The “unhealthy guilt” , sometimes called “Irrational guilt” where it’s not ones to own. Where we mistakenly take on other people’s guilt because the pain can feel horrendous. Pain that can be misplaced where one can only assume this to be true if we didn’t recognize the difference.
[In other terms this can be best described as “Irrational guilt” that leads to “doubts about oneself” and “irrational shame” that is displaced. Hallmark features for Anxiety and OCD.]
When we don’t know the difference between healthy forgiveness versus unhealthy or irrational guilt we may unintentionally place a wedge between those we love and drive them away.
The catalyst of unhealthy guilt; the straw that broke the camel’s back…
Before we go further one must ask themselves,
· Why am I seeking forgiveness?
· What do I wish to gain when asking for forgiveness?
· What action do I wish to receive from someone else in return?
· When does asking for forgiveness become too much?
The healing of our own emotions can only be done through first healing ourselves. This is especially true if you have carried the burdens of unhealthy guilt. But many similar emotions we feel can lead to unhealthy guilt if one suffers from grief or loss, anxiety, depression, etc. But grieving a loss does not necessarily mean the death of a love one. There are many factors in life where one may grieve and most often related to unresolved emotions steaming from circumstances beyond control. Where we feel this lack of control in our lives may become the hindering addictions we seek externally.
Like any addiction, unhealthy guilt can feed into the notion that what we are feeling or what we might be saying to ourselves must be true. The catalyst of an unhealthy guilt can lead to years of chaos in our lives if we do not seek the underline source of our emotions. Unhealthy guilt leads like an addiction and spreads like wildfire through the trees and plains that have become out of control.
Perhaps there were times one found themselves apologizing over-and-over asking for forgiveness believing past circumstances warranted this to be factual right down to the core of one’s conscience state of mind.
My proposed question is to ask “What if there is nothing to forgive?”
In many stages of forgiveness or however one convinces themselves at times by being repetitive in nature to sorrows, it often may drive opposite action upon others we are seeking forgiveness. Perhaps one may become consumed by the “what ifs” in thoughts of sorrows with unhealthy guilt and self-doubts. This combo is like mixing magnesium sulfate and carbonated beverages. Sooner or later it will fester and explode. This course of actions does more harm than good.
Most importantly, sometimes thoughts serve no other purpose than to simply be thoughts.
There comes a time in a person life that one may need to reexamine the situation and ask themselves “why is it that I feel so compelled to seek forgiveness?” Perhaps unhealthy guilt could be the culprit of another’s wrong doing. People generally don’t like to live in past tense and at times this pattern of behavior can hinder one’s ability to move forward into a healthier state of mind. At times communication barriers have taken a toll on others we seek forgiveness. To a sense where one asking for forgiveness hasn’t grasp another’s forgiveness to them.
Is it possible for one to misinterpret such compelling words by repeating the same thing to such great overabundance?
Absolutely, this can happen for several different reasons. Communication can drive a wedge when we misunderstand things. Perhaps someone had said forgiveness isn’t necessary because they felt there wasn’t anything to forgive. At times repeating and saying “its fine or everything is ok overwhelmingly to where a person becomes pressured to reassure another’s pattern of behaviors. This can drive a person away like salt on open wounds; the instability of irrational guilt’s, leaving feelings of hopeless about situations. This kind of repetitive behavior often creates problems by stirring up emotions that may have never been there to begin with.
However just like many addictions unhealthy guilt can become an unhealthy behavior. There have been many discoveries through science and psychology, how the pathways to our brains can change when we change our actions. This is especially true to changing behaviors. Like any addiction or habit the changes start within us. Many addictions and mental health situations are not circumstantial, nor do them fade by the changes we make within ourselves but rather things may become much more manageable as time passes. But only through time can we see these changes as they accrue. Most often great changes can take years to accomplish as we begin recognize what it is we are trying to change. The same is true for unhealthy guilt.
You cannot make up for lost time, nor can a person change what has already been done. We cannot own or accept other people’s faults, nor can we change others wrong doings. The only thing we have in our lives where we can maintain control of circumstance is the control we have within ourselves. Our own emotions, thoughts and our own actions will lead us down a path of choices. It’s that choice we make now, currently in plain view that we may come to embrace towards our future. Like any kind of addiction this too, unhealthy guilt comes with emotional pain when we choose to let go. Because with any uncertainty there is fear and fear can be a powerful motivator.
After all time doesn’t stand still for anyone and neither should you. What we can do is seek a brighter future, take leaps of faith and drive it towards more positive outcomes. When we learn to let go unhealthy and irrational guilt, the chain may become undone and one may no longer be hindered by the inability to move forward but rather gain insight.
Should Federal or State Prisoners with Dementia or Other Chronic and Debilitating Conditions Get a Pass Because They’re Old?
[When I read this article it reminded me of my times served best working in memory centers, adults with developmental disabilities and I strongly agree with the Osborne Association. Continue to read to learn more…]
By 2030, people over 55 will make up a third of the U.S. prison population; and exploding numbers of seniors in prison and rising costs to care for them are putting the country’s criminal justice system “at risk of collapse,” according to the report by the Osborne Association, a policy advocacy and direct-service organization dedicated to transforming the criminal justice system in New York City.
Elizabeth Gaynes CEO of the Osborne Association
[“Increasing rates of elder incarceration have reached crisis-level and put unsustainable pressure on the justice system as a whole.”]
The crisis, she said, is exacerbated by the fact that prisons were never designed to be geriatric wards for individuals with a whole host of age-related issues— from arthritic knees, to difficulty bathing, to the extensive medical attention required for illnesses like strokes, emphysema, Alzheimer’s and cancer. “Incarcerated individuals experience a mental and physical decline at a much faster rate than people outside of prison. Research shows that 40% of incarcerated older people are diagnosed with cognitive impairment. For some, dementia becomes so pronounced that they cannot even remember why they are incarcerated in the first place.”
MN Showdown (1992- 1996) Radio Loop Stunt; 93X versus 93 The Edge…?
“It’s The End Of The World As We Know It”
KLXK was clearly influenced by another young station, WKLH in Milwaukee, which had recently adopted a similar format. KLXK enjoyed modest success, but rival KQRS-FM had retooled their format to include a large amount of classic rock product, and also had the top-rated morning show in the market.
KLXK eventually decided to attack KQRS from another front. On January 28, 1992, 93.7 flipped to hard rock with the call sign KRXX (“93X”). The owner of rival KQRS-FM, took control of 93X pending purchase (but not KMZZ, which was sold separately later) from Entercom on February 4, 1994. The selling price was $20 million, and then a record for highest amount ever paid for a radio station in the market. The following day, 93X began stunting with a loop “It’s the End of the World as We Know It” by R.E.M. throughout the weekend.
Confused listeners flocked in droves to the KRXX studios in Eagan MN that Saturday to see what was going on. Some listeners thought the DJ’s were being held hostage and reportedly, more than 50 calls regarding KRXX were logged to 911. Finally, on Sunday, February 6, at 8 p.m., 93.7 began simulcasting KQRS’ weekly alternative rock show, “Over the Edge”, leading the way for “93.7 The Edge”, which billed itself as “Minnesota’s New Music Alternative”. In a massively popular stunt to secure 93X listeners, the first song played after the switch was “It’s the End of the World as We Know It” by R.E.M.
The new KEGE-FM call letters were soon registered for the new station. The move to create The Edge was due to the growing popularity of modern rock format nationwide, and to thwart Cargill Communications pending plans to roll out the format on the new Rev 105. The Edge came on the air almost two years after KJJO switched to country music, and it did what KJ104 couldn’t – it became a massive ratings success. At one point, KEGE had the highest overall Arbitron market ratings of any modern rock station in the country.
A station-sponsored annual concert known as the EdgeFest (later 93XFest) debuted soon after, and took place annually in Somerset, Wisconsin. It was so popular that even rival Rev 105 gave away tickets for it (though not mentioning the “Edgefest” name). When KEGE went back to being 93X and the “Edge” name was retired in the Twin Cities, the festival briefly continued as “Edgefest” and was later renamed 93XFest. The annual festival in Somerset continued until 2004, when “93X Riverfest” replaced it.
Following the Telecommunications Act of 1996 that relaxed ownership restrictions, ABC purchased KEGE’s rival, “Rev 105” in March 1997 and immediately began broadcasting hard rock on that station as “X105”. Later that year, on September 18, at 2 p.m., the two stations did a format swap of sorts, with 93.7 returning to active rock and the 93X moniker with new call letters KXXR, while The Edge’s format moved over to the 105 frequencies and rebranded as “Zone 105” (though it would be tweaked to AAA) on September 24 after six days of simulcasting 93X on all four frequencies. On the final day of broadcasting, The Edge played “It’s the End of the World as We Know It” by R.E.M. on a continuous loop.
The ALS Phenomenon; The Ice Bucket Challenge went viral on social media during July–August 2014.
The Ice Bucket Challenge, sometimes called the ALS Ice Bucket Challenge, was an activity involving the dumping of a bucket of ice and water over a person’s head, either by another person or self-administered, to promote awareness of the disease amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS, also known as motor neurone disease and in the US as Lou Gehrig’s disease) and encourage donations to research.
Within 24 hours of being challenged, participants had to record a video of themselves in continuous footage. First, they were to announce their acceptance of the challenge, followed by pouring ice into a bucket of water. Then, the bucket was to be lifted and poured over the participant’s head. Then the participant could nominate a minimum of three other people to participate in the challenge.
Within weeks of the challenge going viral, The New York Times reported that the ALS Association had received $41.8 million in donations from more than 739,000 new donors from July 29 until August 21, more than double the $19.4 million the association received during the year that ended January 31, 2013.
On August 29, the ALS Association announced that their total donations since July 29 had exceeded $100 million.The ALS Association is just one of several ALS-related charities that have benefited from the challenge. However, it was reported that the 2015 challenge had raised $500,000 as compared with the $115 million raised by the 2014 challenge. The final figure was reported by the ALS Association in mid-October as being $1,000,000, with a survey by health analysts Treato showing that only 14% of donors from 2014 donated again in 2015
In July 2015, it was reported on the ALS Association’s summary of how the funds raised through the Ice Bucket Challenge were distributed. By percentage, 67% of all funds (about $77 million) went to research, 20% to patient and community services, 9% to public and professional.
This is truly an amazing site for teens to have a voice. This site has my support, I’d give them a 5 star rating.
Above the Influence
[There might come a point when you ask yourself, who am I really? Am I being real? Am I still the kid my parents think I am? And more importantly, who do I want to be?
The truth is, you’re a lot of things to a lot of people – you’re interesting like that. You can be one thing online and still be kind of different in person. You can be someone to look up to, and know what it feels like to get rejected. You can be righteous in your decisions and still slip up and make mistakes.
But, with so many versions of yourself, it’s easy to forget the one thing that keeps you real – the pure-grade, original first edition of yourself.
The point is, when you reach the moment where you have to ask yourself, who am I really? Press pause. Hit reset. And remember, you’re Above the Influence.]
In-Q says it Best “Can’t You Hear the Children Scream?”
STATES THAT MANDATE
For Many States and Counties That Place Your Love Ones In Hospice, In-Home Care or Nursing Homes For Those of Age of 55 Years or Over.
While government tax cuts would be awesome, it does come with a negative impact on deficit. You cannot have tax cut without budget cuts.
Minnesota and many other States have passed legislation over the years on State funding for those over the age of 55 whom are in need of long-term care and/or hospice.
While some may be misinformed, that deficit in care through STATE and FEDERAL funded care CURRENTLY MANDATES FAMILIES to pay the STATE back if YOUR LOVE ONE COULDN’T PAY or INSURANCE didn’t cover cost.
THIS implies that your SPOUSE, your CHILDREN, your BROTHERS, SISTERS and PARENTS inherit the BILL, DEFICIT, DEBT of your love one.
The STATE and GOVERNMENT has authority to GARNISH YOUR WAGES to pay off your love ones debt; GARNISH YOUR TAX REBATES, YOUR ASSETS, TAKE YOUR HOME, YOUR CAR, ANYTHING OF VALUE.
Wake Up America, Tax Reform and Repeal and Replace of Healthcare will add more burden to families. Get involved, know your rights and pay attention to legislation written on paper, NOT the news media…
“Spirituality; Power of Persuasion”
“All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsion, habit, reason, passion and desire”
Spirituality as we know comes in many forms through core values, exposure, personalization, ethnic, culture, religion, beliefs, etc.
Spirituality is within a person’s inner source, intuitive thoughts and how one might perceive things in life.
Elements within a person’s core values may reflect traditional methods through integration and/or congregation within one’s own habitat. One may choose to surround themselves in a manner of how one perceives life’s spiritual values.
Where the wheel spins within ones thoughts and human behavior, actions form in regards as to how a person responds to circumstances in life and at times bring more spirituality into life in such divine ways.
Cause & Effect:
Circumstances within cause and effect may compellingly choose to respond with or without engaging in some form of action. Cause and effect may acknowledge its existence in an underlining source subconsciously.
Through subconscious awareness one may link in some sort of inner source; connective thoughts lay down a foundation of complexity placed within itself. Sometimes collective thoughts may form visions about life, one where most people are better in the abstract of a mindset formation as to how one wishes things to be.
However disarray may at times mimic a cluster of personal distress and how one function in everyday life. At times during emotional distress one might feel as life has become an avalanche.
One where everyday stress may build-and-build until it all unfolds; pours out in a colossal mess…
Cause and effect through turbulent emotions may at times linger or fester and lead to explosive reactions when things to become bothersome.
Someone once said “it comes in a can.” This implies at times one can become stuck reminiscing, ruminating and over-thinking situations by setting the stage and making things appears worse than they really are. This at times this may create problems that were never there to begin with. Almost as if one were to mix magnesium sulfate with soda to calm a storm.
However, staying in the present moment and not allowing things to unfold in the heat of moment can lead to more positive outcomes. But also learning to stay mindful with reminders to not let things become bothersome and spiral downward by placing defensive reactions out of an alarming emotional response. Reminders to not to over-think; explaining the same thing 5 different ways.
Finding balance in life will be the most beneficial element to achieving respite within. Most of us will spend a lifetime searching for this. Life doesn’t come with instructions and neither does balancing our everyday lives. But through our own trial and error we can adopt readiness guided by willingness to make personal change.
Conditioned to Crisis:
A crisis can condition a person to stray far from stabilization in any manner within cause and effect, creating an avalanche effect that may continue to build regardless.
Many individuals at one time or another have come across circumstances in their lives that sent them on a mission in an overwhelming emotional state. This doesn’t necessarily change or modify another person’s elevated emotional state of mind, but rather dysfunction may occur.
One may at times mimic or draw conclusions to reflect on their own emotional response, conditioned through a belief system right down to personal and core values.
One may find within their own personal habitat that their own state of mind may react spontaneously to a crisis mode (often referred to as a rescue mode).
Perhaps worrisome thoughts have captured an emotional response and created a downward spiral of emotions flooding in a state of panic towards one’s spouse, family member or a loved one. In a state of panic (rescue mode) to rid unwanted emotions or problem solve we sometimes become compelled in stressful situations to place ourselves in the driver’s seat of a vehicle, only to find that one is in overdrive with their foot floored to the gas pedal based in a state of fear to React! Respond! Do Something!
The Impact Effect:
Many individuals at one time or another have come across circumstances in their lives that sent them on a mission prompted by emotional state of reaction to current events.
At times current events may have unfolded in our community or around the world, leaving a reaction of overwhelming emotional response prompted by chain of events. The cause and effect reactions to how one may feel about presumable actions or a crisis in current events that may prompt a reaction within one’s own emotional state of being.
Unfortunately prompted in a crisis mode in current events we may at times unintentionally create more havoc.
Spirituality in the Making:
Perhaps a loved one has been ill with a serious medical condition and you find yourself facing fears head on. Maybe it’s a friend having a difficult time managing his/hers mental health distress or perhaps it is someone close to you fighting a drug/alcohol addiction and you feel absolutely powerless to do anything.
In any state of being it can be difficult to carry someone close to one’s heart who inflicts emotional harm onto themselves or others, leaving one to be unable to receive a healthier connection.
In some cases where one’s spiritual beliefs may be in distress and broken down. It can be difficult for a loved one to comprehend the impact of cause and effect. To learn to set aside differences because each person is unique to their own core values when it comes to spirituality.
At times it is necessary to place one’s own spiritual beliefs aside; to be checked in and left at the front door. Individuality creates each person to uniquely define their own core values; their own belief system.
At times ones spiritual beliefs may lead one to believe notions through spiritual entity to be the only path in such divine ways. Ultimately by engaging in a sense of notions disagreeable to another may prompt one to create actions that may do more harm than good.
Most often relationships become much more wholesome when a person can relate on a more personal level without judgments and lack thereof the use of words that may hinder a person’s ability to feel validation.
Validation is crucial part of communication when it comes to a healthier connection, whereas one being empathetic in comparison isn’t because it may become misguided words.
Things in life aren’t intended to be all-or-nothing; black-or-white. There are many shades of gray to lay down a healthy foundation in one’s life.
Spirituality Right Down to the Core:
If I were to use addiction as an example with someone struggling to find reasons to believe things will get better. Most often a person’s addiction can spiral into a path of destruction, leaving one’s self-worth, personal core values to plummet downward.
One’s spirituality may have already been hindered collectively through emotional duress without the ability to reason and/or see things differently.
For some spirituality may falter so far that even an avalanche couldn’t persuade one to find shelter.
“It is often said when it comes to addictions, mental illness, health conditions one may strive at a bare minimal in times of struggles. One’s ability to maintain a faction of hope strays far, just enough to keep a person on solid ground and living moment-by-moment in any given circumstances where there are shadows of doubts…”
(I often find myself dedicated to the needs of others, especially those on Social Security Disability because in this day and age it is difficult enough to qualify, but just as easy to lose. Therefore I dedicate this article to those with disabilities, friends, family and love ones whom have suffered through hard times.)
“Ticket Back to Work” was designed to help workers who are “permanently and totally disabled,” and administration officials say that it is an important lifeline for many people who simply cannot work at all.
In 1999, Congress passed a law authorizing the Ticket to Work program, which offers beneficiaries practical help with a job search. Social Security may also waive medical reviews for those who participate, but not necessarily in some circumstances.
But Social Security officials can take into consideration a person’s age, skills and ability to retrain when determining eligibility. But the question remains: How many beneficiaries could work, given the right services and workplace accommodations?
It was estimated that at least 18 percent of recipients could work and earn at least the threshold at which benefits are suspended. This would imply the amount of social security per month, not yearly as some may say. Other economists say that even among those denied benefits, a majority fail to go back to work, in part because of medical problems and a lack of marketable skills.
The benefits have no expiration date, unlike the current limit for collecting unemployment. Many people spend years appealing denials and building their medical case before being granted benefits, their skills often lag with gaps open on their resume, making it more difficult for them to get back to work.
Beneficiaries, who also fear losing health care coverage, may view their checks as necessity, next to nothing when receiving just $800 or $900 a month. However this applies to local government as well. Many states have county services for those on social security disability and sometimes these provisions can make finances more plausible when it comes to such impoverish conditions by having a monthly medical spenddown before qualifying for medical subsidies.
Let’s say for the moment your SSDI is $1150.00 a month and you receive notice that your income bracket prevents you from getting the necessary medical treatment you require, but rather one would have acquired a monthly $600.00 medical spenddown before qualifying for medical subsidies. This would leave a person $550.00 a month for rent, mortgage, living expense, food and necessities required to survive.
However a person may have opportunities to wave these spenddowns if they were to return or find employment. In many cases those on SSDI would qualify for other subsidies or medical premiums programs.
It is said Social Security offers disability beneficiaries some incentive to ease back into the work force. For nine months after starting a job, they can earn any amount without threatening their benefits and possibly another three years or longer if their income falls below what a person receives in entitlement, with the possibility of keeping their Medicare coverage after going back to work.
Some say Social Security could make this program exponentially more successful but it wouldn’t be enough to dramatically improve the solvency; as many quoted “in one’s mind something’s appear better in the abstract” or perhaps they do it because work for some people gives them dignity and improve their economic condition.”
When a person’s claim comes up for a continuing disability review (CDR), which eventually it will, depending on the type of illness you have and thelikelihood of recovery, you will be sent either a short-form or a long-form to complete and send back. Both ask about your current medical condition, your recent medical treatment, and any work activity. One goes into more detail than the other. If you receive a short-form and you have been working, you may be sent a long-form as a follow up. With either you could have benefits continued or be found to have recovered. If you are only able to work a few hours a week with low earnings, the work may not trigger an early CDR, but of course there are no guarantees.
Someone once asked “I was sent a cessation of benefits. I appealed it and requested that my benefits continue. While waiting for the appeal hearing I received calls from ticket to work providers. I started an IEP with a provider and was told this will stop the process of the appeal. I recently received a letter that my hearing will be within 20 days. Lawyers that I have contacted won’t represent me because am already receiving benefits so they can’t get paid. All I want is to finish my IEP and have the trial work period after I complete it. I’m nervous of starting a full time job without the cushion of my benefits if something happens.”
If you have not already reviewed your claim file and there is still time, it could be good to request the file and review it before a hearing to be sure that all important records are in file.
Regardless of whether you decide to work part-time, you do need to continue under the care of a physician appropriate to your condition because at some point you will have to prove continuing disability. A record of your actual condition will be more important than the doctor’s opinion. You could also consider having a copy of your past medical records to your new doctors so they have your medical background.
If a person’s medical review is initiated, presumably Social Security is then able to finish the review since it had already begun prior to beginning the program. Hypothetically if Social Security finds that you are no longer disabled or medically improved, but you had already started the Ticket to Work program prior to them reaching a decision, does that mean you can ask to finish the program and still receive benefits and Medicare in the interim? The hope being that you can still use the program to find work before benefits are withdrawn.
Social Security is likely to complete a review if the claim is close to due. A person’s Ticket to Work may also terminate; however, if you had already started a vocational rehabilitation program you might be able to continue it or maybe even start one. The Ticket to Work sets up vocational services through your state’s Department of Vocational Rehabilitation. If a person were already connected to the state and receiving vocational services or being set up to, the state might allow one to continue.
When Medicare stops, one may be eligible for sixty-day personal enrollment period under the Affordable Care Act, where you may be able to get benefits with a government-subsidy to help with premiums.
However this leads me back to sustainability; employment that is attainable
Having written many articles on Recruitment Agencies and why agencies are seldom attainable income for those especially on SSDI. it would be vital to do research before engaging in options through an agency. Know your rights, be vigilant when it comes to protecting your SSDI. paperback)
Amazon Author Central “View Author Description” https://www.amazon.com/Marsha-Beede/e/B074VCJB3Y
Clearly statistics show unemployment rates have fallen but in this book one will discover as to why more people don’t qualify for unemployment, how being employed by recruitment agencies factors into these problematic flaws.
You’ll find written content regarding people with disabilities whom are losing their SSDI due to being employed by recruitment agencies without understanding certain criteria and/or facts on how “Ticket Back to Work Program” works for those on disability; a flawed system that leaves many prone to potential loss and vulnerabilities.
As ironic as it may seem many are referred to recruitment agencies by government unemployment agencies and/or vocational rehabilitation representation with little or no information on their “Ticket Back to Work Program” status and how it works. The downfall of basic knowledge within recruitment agencies leaves many with disabilities blindsided when referred to recruitment agencies. After all there are no guarantees for permanent job placements as many are told employment opportunities are possible temp to hire with merely the most plausible explanations of potential hire along with a collection of disclaimers and contracts to sign.
Sustainability; attainable stability and financial security must be achieved for one to be successful on “Ticket Back to Work Program” and this is seldom found through recruitment agencies.
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If we agree, then why are we arguing?
[Locked in different brain patterns of thinking can cause quite a headache if not conscientiously aware enough to stop it in its tracks…]
Communication errors that we sometimes overlook can cause a lot of misfortune, misunderstandings that sometimes were never there to begin with.
Why should 2+2=4 more so than 1+3?
There is no burden of truth nor a right or wrong answer.
This might seem pretty simple right?
Vehicle’s and communication can carry some very similar factors.
Your vehicle may be making some strange noises, rattling or perhaps guzzling gas and you’re wondering what to do? Do you sit with these strange noises? Let it keep rattling till it drives you crazy. Perhaps the gas is burning more than it should and it becomes rather bothersome.
Communication in relationships can be very similar to vehicle. Now you’re probably thinking “what on earth are you talking about?” Maybe one might be intrigued by this scenario and as I continue as not all things appear the same.
Countless times I’ve found myself arguing over something that I may have agree upon but then got hung up on communication barriers, saying the same thing but five different ways.
Catching these moments where communication shouldn’t seem so difficult can be harder than it may seem when you come upon someone whom may not have the same thinking pattern.
Our thought process are unique to our own individuality…
I often reference the word “Brain lock” in my writing because this is what our brains do at times. This doesn’t reflect right nor wrong, it doesn’t reflect intelligence, nor a person’s character. Simply said is we are all a reflection to ourselves, how we perceive things in life, thought patterns that may signify who we are.
Our brain chemistry are hardwire in such divine ways that no one thought pattern is the same, only similarities carry common factors.
Neurotransmitters in our bodies have always been intriguing because even the slightest change in a person’s diet can send one into a tailspin when it comes to changes in mood and our bodies.
We carry more neurotransmitters (at times called your second brain) in our stomach, our digestive track than we do in our brains. Our bodies communicate on various levels from head to toe.
One could have the slightest snarling pain to cause one to become distracted and lose focus. Perhaps a loved one lives with chronic pain because this too may displace communication. Communication is essential to our everyday lives.
I once had the opportunity to sit at a concert next to a woman who had late onset Alzheimer’s and appeared to be unable to communicate. However, something caught my eye and helped me to realize not all things appear to be as what it might seem. There she rested next to me with her feet bobbin to the beat of the song the band was playing.
There are many ways to illustrate communication far and in between…
Just as relationships take time, patience and effort beyond basic understanding. Communication isn’t bias nor a rebound of endless equations that sometimes get us stuck on 2+2 or however 4 may come about.
We are all built on a foundation that requires communication on various levels. No stone can be unturned without willingness to try.
To create a deeper understanding we need to move beyond what we know, find a way to set aside what we know, be willing to listen, ask questions and keep asking until we hear, feel or gradually notice how we may see things from a different perspective.
Communication can be the most daring of truths…
Unlocking the use of our brains can sometimes becomes an habitual state of being, a mode we become accustom to driving on automatic pilot; a comfort zone beyond reasoning, rationalizing and often overlooked.
Whereas at times patterns can wreak havoc in our everyday lives without a second guess as to why things appear to stay the same.
Just as vehicles can become unmanageable; mimic different reasoning’s as we begin to explore the idea of how complex the problem might be. While your vehicle may be making some strange noises, rattling or perhaps guzzling gas and you’re wondering what to do?
One might begin to ponder on the vehicles condition, become fixated, annoyed and agonized endlessly or become clueless beyond recognizing what might otherwise become in some sort reality or some versions of truth.
Now let’s imagine this car is someone significant in your life….
Your brain has been working overtime…
The car is a metaphor…
Or maybe one might still be pondering?…
Whereas there is nothing more divine than versions of truths or doubts within communication in itself…
However the answers may at times become willingness to be open to someone else’s versions of truth…
Because it is often quoted “there are three versions of truth”…